The following are
excerpts from a sermon by Egyptian cleric Mazen Al-Sarsawi, which aired
on Al-Nas TV on January 7, 2010.
Said Ibn Al-Musayyib
was a 7th-century Muslim scholar known for his piety. He married off
his daughter to his student, Abu Wada'.
[Said Ibn Al-Musayyib] went to the home of his student, Ibn Abi Wada',
who was absent from his lessons for a day or two. Ibn Al-Musayyib asked
him: Where have you been?
Ibn Abi Wada' said: My
wife died, and I buried her. I was busy with that. Ibn Al-Musayyib asked
him: Are you single now? Did you marry again? Ibn Abi Wada' said: No,
I didn't. I am broke. Who would marry me?
Ibn Al-Musayyib said
that he would marry off his daughter to Ibn Wada'.
Ibn Abi Wada' said: When
I got home after the prayer someone knocked on the door. I asked who
it was, and he said: It's Said.
All the Saids I know
came to my mind except for Said Ibn Al-Musayyib, who for 40 years did
not go too far from his home or mosque. For 40 years, Ibn Al-Musayyib
would walk from his home to the mosque, and back, without visiting anyone.
He didn't let anyone waste his time.
Ibn Wada' said: I opened
the door, and saw Ibn Al-Musayyib. Behind him was his daughter, whom
he had married off to me. He pushed his daughter towards me, and said:
I didn't want you to spend even one night as a single man.
He shut the door behind
him and was gone. When the girl went in, she was so embarrassed that
she fainted. She wasn't used to being around men. This may have been
the first time she had seen a man other than her family members. When
she found herself alone with her husband, she couldn't take it, and
After awhile, Ibn Wada'
went to Said who asked: How is my daughter treating you? Ibn Wada' said:
She treats me in a way that pleases my friends and upsets my enemies.
Ibn Musayyib said: If
she bothers you in anyway use the rod on her. If she doesn't behave
beat her on the spot. He showed him the proper way to restrain her.
Ibn Musayyib said to
him: If she bothers you - if something annoys you, or if you suspect
anything - beat her on the spot with the rod. Break her head, as they
This should be the position
of men who want to protect their daughter's homes. Today, unfortunately,
bad seeds have been sown by men who were not brought up on Islamic law.
They do not follow the ways of Islam or the ways of real men. They were
brought up on films and TV series. Satan has nested in their heads.
One of these men, when
his daughter comes to him full of anger, says to her: I will bring your
husband over here on all fours. What, he thinks he can lord it over
you?! He gets his daughter even more worked up against her husband.
The result is that her husband divorces her, and she ends up with her
father. In other words, he ruins her life with this false bravado, which
proves nothing but the mental feebleness of these people. Real men,
however, act like Said.
The same thing happened
with Zubeir. He had two wives, and whenever he would get mad at them,
he would tie them together by the hair and would give them a harsh beating,
in order to straighten them out. The wife who shared Zubeir with Asmaa
[the daughter of the Caliph Abu Bakr] was savvy, and during the beating,
she would move right and left, so all the blows would rain down on Asmaa.
Asmaa would turn to her
father, all upset. Abu Bakr would say to her: "Go back to your
husband." She would say: "But he beat me black and blue, even
though I didn't do a thing. He had no reason, I didn't say a word. It
was the other wife. You know me - I didn't do a thing, but I was the
one who got all the beatings." But Abu Bakr would say to her: "Go
back to Zubeir. He is a good man, and he may become your husband in
When there are problems,
the solution is to give the man a free hand to discipline his family
members and to control them. By no means can a woman be the head [of
For a century or so,
the media, the TV, and the movies, and all that crap have been trying
to carry out a revolution in domestic leadership - from the man to the
woman. They have succeeded.
In many homes, the woman
is the man. She tells her husband what to do, and he says: "Yes,
This is the influence
of modern media, which destroys the homes of the Muslims. They want
to turn things upside-down, and hand the leadership over to women. A
woman cannot drive a car, let alone head a home, or anything beyond
Those supporters of women's
rights, who lead people astray, hate women. They bring them down to
sin. They have taken the woman from her home, severed her from her children,
and incited her husband against her. Today, the woman works, and when
she comes home, she says to her husband: "We are equal. I bring
in the money like you. I don't want to hear another word from you. We
will open up a parliament here. From now on, you must ask for my opinion
on everything. We will have a discussion on whether to cough or not."
There's nothing wrong
with a consultation, but the home should not be turned into a parliament.
As I said, for 50-60
years they have been using movies and TV series, in order to effeminate
men and make them soft. The boy grows up to be a Mickey Mouse, a mommy's
As soon as he is born,
his father buys him a cell phone. He is still in diapers, and when he
wants to cry, he cries into the cell phone, and his mother comes to
nurse him. Then he goes to kindergarten or to school. As soon as he
steps out of his room and into the living room, he calls his mother:
"I am in the living room, mommy." When he reaches the elevator,
he says: "I've got to the elevator, mommy." "I'm on the
bus, mommy." "I'm off the bus, mommy." "I'm in the
classroom." "I've eaten my sandwiches."
What is this?! His mother
sits all day by the cell phone, to hear what's going on with her sweetie.
This way, her sweetie grows up to be a mommy's boy - completely helpless.
If anyone so much as scratches his head, he calls his mother. You tell
me, can someone like this ever do anything with his life? Of course
not. He is under his mother's wing.
The Bedouins would let
their boys grow up far away from home. The wet nurse would take the
boys and bring them up away from their parents, so that they would grow
up to be men, and not women.
Today, a boy grows up
to be a sissy, who cannot do anything. Back in the day, when there was
true Arab upbringing, they would throw the boy into the desert and let
him grow up there, and they would not hear from him for 3 or 4 years.
When he would return, he would be self-sufficient.
Not all homes are built
on love and romance, like in those movies. True, there are homes where
there is love, and Islam decrees this, but it doesn't have to be love
like in the movies. They teach people that love means listening to music
and gazing at the stars. If you gaze at the stars these days, you will
get run over by a car.
The women's rights supporters
in Europe and America are all swindlers. They don't do any of the things
they talk about. Their women are like merchandise. They talk about women's
rights and say that they are granting women their liberties, but they
take them from their homes, and turn them into merchandise in the hands
of lowlifes. They use women for ads. They use them as prostitutes.
Their women are in the
gutter. They are exposed for anyone to see. Their women have become
merchandise. When they make an ad for men's shaving cream, they put a
naked woman next to it. What's a woman got to do with something like
that? In an ad for a coffee table or a car, they place a naked woman
next to it.